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Hi guys I don’t think there’s gonna be an update anytime soon. My late dad’s sister just passed away recently and she’s left behind an 8 year old which I’ve never even met before because my dad and his sister had a really unstable relationship. The thing is now I’ve got to fly back to Korea after 15 years and might end up taking custody or guardianship of a kid because I’m the only family left because they don’t even know who the father of the child is. The worst part I can only speak Korean at a 5-6th grade level how am I supposed to communicate with the kid. I’ve spent the last week spiraling. I’m 25 so I am capable of providing for the kid and taking care of the kid. But I’m in the midst of studying for a degree so I don’t know if I have the time to even take care of a kid. I was literally sent a legal letter on the process of having guardianship or custody of the kid but I am in a dilemma because I can’t even communicate with the kid and I shouldn’t just pluck the kid out of his home country and bring him to a foreign country where he may not adjust fairly well but I feel guilty. He’s the only family member I have and he’s only 8 this is definitely going to affect him really badly. Choosing guardianship feels as if I’m giving him up and as much as I don’t know him I feel so much guilt. But if I did opt for custody I will probably not be granted it because firstly being related doesn’t guarantee custody and the court will always have to consider if it is in the best interest of the child. And if I do consider custody that means I need to deal with a lot of documents, adoption papers, home interviews, working with social service workers and signing him up to a international school in my country which is not cheap.
Everything is so overwhelming and it was just sprung on me just like that. I was not prepared for this happening. There are so many thoughts rushing through my head like will the kid and I be able to bond what if there’s a language barrier what if I end up being a bad parent it’s killing me. I feel so nauseous and anxious. (sorry for the vent im really lost right now) update: I've decided to move back to my home country next year. Things haven’t been going well in the place I’ve called home for the past 15 years, and it feels like the right time for a change. Over the last two months, we’ve talked a few times through a translator, and it felt as if we connected immediately. I really hope he felt the same. I’ve also been learning Korean so there’s no language barrier between us.